It all remains in the approach toward the child. A nanny should never be a surprise to a child, sit down and have a talk with your child and let them know that they will have a nanny and explain what the nanny will do and help with.
If your child is young, put on cartoons of a nanny helping a new family and show lots of pictures of the new soon-to-be nanny for the home. Now, for your child being disrespectful to the nanny after trying to properly introduce the new mommy helper.
We need to introduce new ways to fix the problem and fast:
- First, we need to see if your child does not like the nanny to where you need to search for a new one. Children have a right to not like someone, but it’s rare that you find a child, who is not liking an adult, but it happens. When searching for a new nanny have your child help you in the search and sit in and see how she reacts or lets you know if he or he dislikes the new nanny or even loves them.
- Second. Some children act out in different ways to new situations and being hyper, disrespectful can all fall into the same boat. Try speaking to the nanny to see how they feel. Sometimes bonding more with the child and putting in more effort can go a long way.
- Last, the best way to help with this situation entirely would be to reinforce that it’s not nice to treat anyone that way, no matter how we feel on the inside about it. Be sure to make a note of your disciplinary actions that you’re disciplining the child for the expression of this bad behavior.
Be sure to mention that the nanny gets the same respect as anyone else in the family.
Examples of Disrespectful Behavior
You might wonder as a first-time parent what should you be looking for exactly. There’s a line and all parents should know with mild rebellious behavior vs. blunt disrespect that line should be drawn out clearly.
But, as a parent, you should know when your child has crossed that line. At the core level, you should know the difference between a child shouting “your dumb” vs. rolling their eyes.
If you don’t start by stopping the eye-rolling things will eventually get worse and not just for you but also for your nanny. It’s okay for your child to display mild frustration, but nowhere to draw the line if it becomes too excessive.
Examples of this may be “life is soooooo hard”, “I hate doing this” and sometimes grunting or mouth mumbling. Signs of your child being disrespectful may include:
- Making fun of the nanny (very common).
- Yelling loud at the nanny, “NO” and “I don’t want to” are prime examples.
- Putting hands on the nanny.
- Not listening to direct orders.
- Ignoring the nanny.
- Not having manners when needed.
Consequences for Disrespectful Child
In punishing your child the last thing you want is a power struggle. Over-the-top punishments aren’t always needed and sometimes it will end up giving you the opposite result you’re looking for.
The power of using the right disciplining acting towards your child can lead your child to good behavior. Each child is different therefore you must learn what works via trial and error.
A consequence is a punishment that follows your child’s negative action, poor decision, or inaction. Be in control at all times, it’s very easy to give a super harsh punishment as soon as your child slips up.
But remain in control at all times. The three-strike rule should be in effect at all times. What is the three-strike rule you may ask? Let me explain….
- Strike one, This will comprise a minor punishment. A simple threat of a harsher form of punishment. It’s more the verbal warning strike.
- Strike Two, This one is more intense than the last one. This can be time out, Groundation from their favorite device for the rest of the day, or a slight pop on the hand to reinforce the point.
- Strike THREE, YOU’RE OUT! Now, this is when things get serious. You’ve been through strikes one and two and still the same behavior. This is when you double down.
This can be a firmer pop on the hand, Time out for a much longer period, or grounded for 24 hours from entertainment. Grounding your kids gives them personal time to really let what they did sink in.
But that’s not all, there are more ways to discipline a child. I will now list a few for you to review:
- Removal. Taking a child out of a play area to take a break and pause helps a lot.
- 5-Nice-Things. Having your child (harder for toddlers) say 5 nice things to your nanny instills positive connections. In the long run, this will help with bonding.
- Early to bed. Even an early nap time is great. No child loves sleeping, so we can even use this punishment for part of strike three. There’s nothing a nap can’t correct either. It’s like a restart button to parenthood.
- Quiet time can do wonders (not only for your brain). Having your child have time without saying a peep unless they have to use the bathroom or need something (food or water) can really help with calming them down.
Signs of a Spoiled Child
When it comes to wondering how the perfect child is born, you might wonder how is it possible to have the right amount of compassion, love, and care built into a child. Children don’t come from storks created perfectly for your family but how can you spot the signs of your child being spoiled?
- They tend to not play well with other children. One sign that you’ve overindulged your child is that they would rather play alone and not share a single toy even if they’re not playing with it.
- They may drive people away. If they drive away your friends, their peers alone, look into his or her actions. Because they could be acting in a spoiled manner outside of the home.
- Tons of tantrums. Does your child throw a lot of tantrums? More frequent than normal? Tantrums are normal for younger children, but when it’s way past the toddler stage and these tantrums are still being carried out way passed the toddler era. Your child started to learn early that their parents cave in when a tantrum is out full-blown. For example, if you pull out a 6-year-old throwing a full-blown tantrum kicking and yanking their arms all over to where you have to drag them out of the store from the toy section, the chances are in this case that they’re SPOILED.
- Not saying Thank you. Teaching gratitude is a process but if your child won’t express it even when prompted, high chances are they’re spoiled.
- Lack of empathy. If your child isn’t displaying empathy to others in situations of pain or crying even as a young toddler parenting issues could be at play.
- Center of Attention. If your child must always be the center of attention or fighting to be in the spotlight all the time is another sign of being spoiled.
The meaning of spoiled is when your child thinks of no one but themselves, who believes that their satisfactions matter more than the convenience or needs of others, and believes they are the center of interest and social entertainment.
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